That Time I Chose NOT to Believe Toxic Masculinity

SIS,

So, let me tell you about the time I chose NOT to believe that the reason why a Man did what he did was because he was “Toxically Masculine.”

Are you ready? You sittin’ down? Good?

Okay.

So, today, I get to the gym and I look at my client and The Consortium in my head (it’s a Gemini thing) says:

“Hey! We vote she does ‘x, y, and z’ for her workout today. It needs to the about 40 minutes long and she’s gonna need a little reprieve toward the end.”

Okay. Cool beans.

So I go AAAAAALLL THE WAAAAAAY to the COMPLETE OPPOSITE SIDE of the gym and set up the following:

A tire for flipping
A 45 lb plate for pushing
And some battle ropes

Sort of like a mini obstacle course, without the barbed wire, electric shock wires, and 5-mile swimming river.

Now, I prepped all of this while my client is completing her warm up, where?

On the COMPLETE OPPOSITE SIDE of the gym.

So, I’ve set up our space that NOBODY was in and now it’s time for me to meet my client as she is finishing her warm up,

Where?

You guessed it!

On the COMPLETE OPPOSITE SIDE of the gym.

I go (one more time for good measure) to the

COMPLETE OPPOSITE SIDE of the gym to meet her so that we can walk back to the mini-course I’d set up for her.

We get to the station and what do I see?

One of the male trainers has taken over the space I had prepared with the plate and the battle ropes (the tire was further away) and he also had his client USING the battle ropes I had prepped for MY client.

Wanna know what I did?

Well first, let me tell you what I DID NOT do.

I DID NOT go over to him, in front of his female client and bust his balls about “taking over my space.”

I DID NOT ASSUME and say

“See? This is that BULLSHIT I’m talking about when it comes to being in this Male-Dominated industry! These Men don’t respect us Female Trainers. They just come and whip their dicks out and piss all over our stuff and dare us to say something about it.

Fuckin’ Toxic Masculinity at it’s finest!”🤬😡

Nope.

Here’s what I thought:

“You know, trainers leave stuff out all the time. Maybe he just thought another trainer didn’t clean up behind themselves, so he figured he’d take advantage and use some stuff that was already there.”🤷🏾‍♀️

So that means, maybe, it was

*GASP* 😱

An accident…🤷🏾‍♀️

Or, maybe he saw me set it up and since I walked away and was gone for so long, maybe I had changed my mind (he’s a newer trainer, so he doesn’t know that I ALWAYS clean up after myself, even if I change my mind in the moment).

Or,

Let’s just say that he watched me set it up

And he knew I was coming back

And he said to himself

“I am a Man in this Male-Dominated industry and so I’m gonna whip my dick out right now and piss all over this space she just prepared, mark my territory, and dare her to say something. Like ‘yeah bitch! Whatchu gonna do?’ Whatchu gonna dooooooo?” (In a “Stinkmeaner voice)

EVEN IF it were the latter,

Which I do not AT ALL believe it was,

Guess what?

I

STILL

CHOSE

NOT

TO

VIEW

THIS

MASCULINE

BEING

AS

A

TOXIC

MALE🤷🏾‍♀️

You know what I DID do?

I said to myself,

“Hmmm… I wonder how we can share this space.”

And do you know what happened?

Ideas…

Ideas came to me, IMMEDIATELY about how we could SHARE the space.

I was able to IMMEDIATELY make The Shift

And we shared the space.

My client got a great workout

And the 4 of us shared a SUPER FUNNY moment during out time together,

SHARING that space.

What YOU do, is YOUR business.

How I CHOOSE to interpret what you do, is MY business.

And Iike my oldest Son taught me a few months ago,

I CHOOSE the interpretation that EMPOWERS me.

🧜🏾‍♀️I Love You, Sis😘

#MermaidsWisdom

💕🧜🏾‍♀️💗🧜🏾‍♀️💕

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