The Parental Dress Code

🧜🏾‍♀️Dear Parents of Children Who Attend Madison High School and Those for Whom the “Parental Dress-Code” is Causing You Much Distress,

Come sit with me for a spell, will you? It won’t be long… I promise.🙏🏾


There is a lesson about life that I learned many years ago…

A lesson that was so deep, so potent, and so transformative, once I actually groked it that I make it a point to teach it to my children, while they are young, so they don’t have to bump their heads like I did.

Are you ready to hear it?

Well, here it goes…

Every single person who is currently living on this Green Earth, in this dimension of Free Will, has the Free Will to manage his or her own processes.

However, at the point at which you prove that you are unable or UNWILLING to manage your own processes, you put your Self in a position for someone else to dictate to you, how those processes should be managed.

You may not approve, but at that point, your disapproval may not matter.

How many years (and I went to Madison High School, my Freshman year) have parents been allowed to present themselves at the school dressed like they just rolled over and got out of bed?

The reality is this:

School should be a PARTNERSHIP between the parents AND the staff AND the teachers to create the most nurturing environment possible for our children.

This means that EVERY SINGLE PERSON involved has a RESPONSIBILITY to those children.

So, if you present your Self like you do not take time with your Self, then how do you expect anyone to take time with your children?

Believe it or not, PEOPLE WILL JUDGE YOUR CHILDREN based on how YOU present your Self.

How do I know?

I have FOUR children. And at one time, ALL of my children experienced the Texas Public school system.

I’ve heard the conversations.

You don’t go to the club in your bonnet,

You don’t go to work in your bonnet and house shoes.

So, why would you find it acceptable to present yourself, being your CHILD’S FIRST ADVOCATE in your bonnet and house shoes.

This NOT the same as Black people being discriminated against for having braids or locs. That is a kind of racial and CULTURAL discrimination. So don’t co-opt this experience because it is NOT the same thing.

Do you want to try to convince me that Black Culture is hair bonnets and house shoes in public?

Do you want to tell me that Black Culture is “I will not take time to present myself in the way I desire to be respected?

I’ll wait💁🏾‍♀️

Actually, no I won’t because it would be a bold faced lie and an excuse.

Let us not forget,

The ONLY reason why you have a dress code now is because this conversation has had to occur over

And over

And over

And over

And over

Year after year after year after year…

And at the point at which you continue to refuse to manage your own processes, accordingly,

Someone or something else will step in and dictate to you how your processes are to be managed.

Give your child the same respect you give to your employers.

After all,

Your CHILDREN will be your legacy, LONG after your employer is done with you.

🧜🏾‍♀️I Love You, Sis😘



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